Staying Positive when times are hard is never easy. Which is why we all need to look for ways to relieve our negativity. Anyone who knew me a few years ago will tell you how my negative attitude didn’t just drag me down, but It took others with me. It’s just no fun. You can lose friends, lose yourself and become ostracised from your social circles. Ultimately, you’ll lose your tribe. Which is why if you’re suffering from a negative mental attitude it’s time to sort it out.
Recently I’ve been implementing a few changes to my everyday life in order to keep myself bright, happy and positive. These are all easy habits you can do to ensure you get the best out of your day, your year and your life.
Start your day with a positive plan
I love planning, keeping notes, jotting ideas. It’s not always been that way. If you asked me last year when I last picked up a pen I probably wouldn’t know. But, now I jot everything. Sometimes our minds just aren’t big enough to store everything we need it too and it has to leak onto paper.
Make a note, the night before of EVERYTHING you need to do the next day. Prioritise it. Then re-order it. I like to manage my list in timed sections. I’ll make a schedule of the hours to fit each activity, sometimes I’ll go over. Sometimes Under, but it all equals out.
Don’t forget breaks
When you’re making a day plan don’t forget to schedule breaks. Doing important activities for hours upon end can be mind numbing and consuming, it will only add to your negativity. Have a look into the Pomodoro method, it’s a productivity technique used by many. The basic principles are working for a short, set amount of time and taking short breaks in between. I find taking a brisk walk, or even just stopping for a quick coffee break a great way to relax.
A year ago I wrote a post on staying hydrated and how important it is. I truly believe that hydration and breathing (which I’ll discuss later) are two of the most important and necessary things we can do for our wellbeing. I don’t know about you, but I honestly feel awful if I’ve not really drunk much throughout the day. Adding a bottle of water to your handbag if you’re heading out for the day is a great way to stay hydrated. Downloading an app like Water Drink will also ensure you know how much you should be drinking and it’ll even keep a diary log for you. It also gives you reminders if you haven’t been drinking for a while.
Breathing and meditation
Since the start of January, I’ve started every morning, with between 3-10 minutes of meditation. I had no idea how tough it would be. I always figured it was just a case of shutting your eyes and listening to someone. It’s deeper than that. It really helps to relax and focus your mind. If I’m honest, I used to think meditating and yoga was hippy dippy bullshit but since I’ve been doing it every morning my opinion has totally changed. And, so what if it is hippy, dippy? Is that so bad?.
Ok, you don’t have to meditate. Just take a few minutes each morning to breathe deeply and mindfully. Filling your lungs with oxygen and relaxing your body is vital for a positive morning. Don’t believe me? Then give it a try.
Read positive & uplifting books
This is my ULTIMATE positivity booster. Filled with quotes and wisdom some of these personal development books hit the nail on the head and can turn your negativeness around in seconds. My personal favourites are:
I am so grateful to have discovered these books and each one is beneficial to different areas in my life. Spending 30 minutes of my morning engrossed in a good book is one of my favourite ways to start a day.
Learn a new Skill
Or better one you currently have. I’m trying to learn French as we will be moving there in the foreseeable future. Learning a language has always been something I’ve wanted to do. I studied Spanish at college but never really got that far. Even living in Spain for 6 months didn’t help. It’s even worse that I spent over 18 months living in France and never picked up a thing.
Now I spend 2-3 hours a week learning French. I’m nowhere near where I want to be, but every time I learn/remember something new I feel tonnes better and positive that I will manage it.
Giving to others
Do you find giving presents at Christmas more fun than opening them? I literally struggle keeping presents a secret in the run up to Christmas or birthdays because I’m too excited for people to open their gifts. Well, that positive feeling should be applied into everyday life. Giving, without receiving fills you with kindness, which in turn fills your mind with positive thoughts. You don’t have to give money, gifts, objects. Just give joy, happiness and positivity to other people. Lift people up when they’re down. Tell someone they’re beautiful when they’re feeling ugly. Brighten the day of someone else and their happiness will reflect onto you.
Exercising and eating healthily
Many people wrongly assume that exercise and healthy eating is just for people wishing to lose weight or people on a diet. They don’t realise there are so many more benefits to it. I don’t eat to lose weight, I eat to feel healthy and nourished, losing fat is just a bonus. I honestly feel our minds benefit from not only hitting macronutrient goals but micronutrients too. If my iron levels are low I feel faint and tired, if my vitamins are low I feel groggy and drained. Different foods affect our bodies differently and make us feel different emotions.
Exercise goes hand in hand with eating well. I’ve spoken in the past about how Exercise has really boosted my mental health. Hitting targets and achieving goals “like running my first 5k” give me hope and confidence. I’d be lost without my gym membership.
This is something I struggle with. I don’t many friends with goals like mine. I have those that eat well and exercise if they’re on a diet but none who really care for nutrition. If I told some of my friends I enjoy personal development books and meditating they would assume I’d moved to cuckoo land. So, I recently set up a group on Facebook for like minded people. An accountability group where everyone can discuss their feelings, achievements, goals. I created it to help people like you inspire and be inspired on your health and wellness path. You can join it if you like, we don’t bite.
Having someone to help encourage and motivate is really important because although we can do things every day to help stay positive, life does have a tendency to bite you on the bum when you least expect it. That’s why you need an accountability partner swooping in to save the day, as you do for them.
I hope these hints and tips can help you on your positivity journey and if you have any other hints and tips, I’d love for you to add them to the Health and Self appreciation group on Facebook.