The “Screw The Rest” Method may sound a little extreme. Whether it’s living with your parents, pushy work colleagues or interfering friends, maintaining a healthy diet can be difficult. It’s hard enough to deal with your rumbling belly & hungry head telling you to drop the lettuce, without everyone else discouraging you too.
Motivation can be hard to find. I wrote this post to help you find ways to maintain a healthy diet when nobody is around to support you. Time to develop a “screw the rest” mentality.
Growing up with a pushy but somewhat semi-estranged father and a mother who had struggled with eating disorders, I was always destined to develop some odd-ness.
As a 12-year-old mum started feeding me “Low-fat” ready meals (low fat = crap marketing ploy). She told me I could “learn to cook for myself” code for: “I’m too busy to cook”. 6 minutes in the microwave and there’s my
Firstly these meals were ridiculously unhealthy. Secondly, they were so unsatisfying, that I’d still snack on sandwiches and crisps.
My dad used to visit me around 4 times a year, each time there would be some comments on my weight. Comments on my “obvious lack of exercise”. Then questions on what it was I was eating. The end of his visits would usually consist of him shouting at my mum for how she’s feeding me and then peering through the bin bags to find out what I’d been eating.
As if being a chubby teenager wasn’t confusing and hard enough on it’s own I had to deal with this for at least 5 years of my adolescence.
Anyway, it wasn’t until I was about 16/17 I started to actively care about my appearance, figure and diet. I started going to the gym. Exercising, and incorporating healthier options into my diet, didn’t last long. Outside influences were always there discouraging me.
Which is why I’ve written this post, to help stop these influences ruining your diet.
If you’ve read my about me section you will know, I stayed as a chubby teenager right through into adulthood. It took till I was 23/24 to actually succeed in doing something about it. That’s because I changed my mentality. I developed a “screw the rest” mentality.
“Screw The Rest”
There’re so many different instances when you might need that extra bit of support and encouragement. A lot of time, you’re not going to get it. Hate to break it to you.
Dilemma 1: Eating Healthy While Living With Parents/Housemates:
If your parents/Housemates don’t lead a healthy lifestyle it can be almost impossible to eat a nutritious diet. The first step I took when living at my parents was encouraging them to lead a healthier lifestyle. I offered to cook dinner AND go shopping for them (that’s 2 of the biggest chores, your family should be grateful, right?).
If step one doesn’t work, you’re going to have to get territorial. Time to acquire some fridge & freezer space and then you can do your own food shop.
If you live on a tight budget and you require your parents to pay for your food shop this is probably going to be your biggest hurdle. Speak to them and ask for the money to do it yourself. Cooking healthily for one doesn’t have to be as expensive as people make out.
Shops like Aldi and Lidl make it easy to snag a bargain. Aldi has a super 7 veg deal – 7 choice vegetables are 59P. For those of you, who don’t have an Aldi or Lidl nearby just stop being a snob. Buy supermarkets own branded food, it’s just as good as everything else, except you’re not paying for a fancy logo.
Dilemma 2: Going Out For Dinner:
Heading to a restaurant with an empty stomach when changing your diet is never a great idea. Food envy is real. The second you walk in that restaurant, the salad you’d planned on having is no longer as appealing as the giant bacon and cheese burger the girl at the entrance is eating, FACT.
Going in hungry is like going on a blind date. You picture exactly how you want the night to go and then you realise like the date, the salad just isn’t as appealing as you’d hoped.
Fill up before you head out. I don’t mean so full you’re verging on food baby, but satisfied enough to curb cravings and “bad food” thoughts. Try snacking on some carrot and pepper sticks, low calorie enough to not ruin your main meal, but sweet enough to be satisfying.
If you’ve arrived and the burger at the entrance is still staring you directly in the face, you need to wipe the drool from your mouth and get drinking. No, not vodka. Drink a pint of water. It will help take your mind from the
delicious looking bacon and cheese burger.
One of the biggest struggles with eating healthy whilst going out for a meal is the judgement. Comments like “Oh don’t be stupid, you don’t need the salad” are so annoying. Would people tell a lactose intolerant person “don’t be ridiculous, you can eat the ice cream–one won’t hurt” It’s guilt tripping in the worst form.
This is when you really need to get out from your head and just say “Screw You, I do what I want, when I want”. Don’t let someone who is jealous of your healthy food choices and achievements make you feel bad.
Remember what post-meal feels like. If you’re trying to think of what to eat consider how it will make you feel after two hours. Healthy options will leave you feeling energised and ready for anything. The unhealthy option is likely to leave you tired, groggy and lethargic, how do you want to feel?
Dilemma 3: The Cake and Biscuit Bingeing Work Colleagues:
Dependent on where you work you may have become accustomed to the fact that there’s going to be biscuits and cake in the office. Maybe one of your colleagues is a keen baker?
It can be hard to refuse food offered to you, especially when someone has baked it themselves. You will usually be made to feel guilty about declining no matter how politely you’ve done it. Nobody should be made to feel guilty for not wanting to fill their face with crap (even if Margaret’s cakes taste divine if you don’t want it, you don’t have to eat it).
You will usually hear phrases like:
“one won’t hurt, I won’t tell anyone.”
“but it’s a special occasion.”
“oh, go on, they’re delicious”
It’s hard enough to stick to your diet without the pressure from people around you. Considering you probably spend most of your day at work, this is one of the places you NEED to feel at ease.
So how do you deal with work “food pushers?
Firstly you need to convince yourself you don’t want what they’re offering. Practice alone how to say no. It may sound stupid, but having the courage and the will power to decline can be difficult, so having a little alone practice can be really beneficial.
Don’t fear to feel ungrateful. There are plenty of other ways to show how grateful you are without involving food. We associate comfort with eating and that’s just no good. Find other ways to show your work colleagues how grateful you are to them, without eating their fooPre-cook
cook your own food and take it to work. Invest in some pretty looking tupperware I have a giant draw full. Fill it with colourful salads, fruits and meats. Your colleagues will probably be jealous. After a few weeks you’ll start to notice more and more of them start bringing in healthier options themselves.
Dilemma 4: The Friendly Sabotage:
This one is probably the hardest to deal with especially if you see this person as a close friend.
You need to remember that Anyone who sees your personal decisions about your health and lifestyle as offensive or upsetting is not a healthy person to have in your life.
Many friends will feel jealousy. Envious that you have the motivation and willpower to make a change for yourself. They may not have that determination and drive.
Try and help them deal with their own issues, but don’t let them drag you down. Try and get them on board with your diet, they may laugh at first and seem disinterested but don’t let that phase you. Be the bigger person.
You can’t change someone else’s behaviour unless they want to change themselves, if they are so insistent on sabotaging your diet then it’s really important to distance yourself. That doesn’t mean ghosting them and ignoring their messages and calls. Finding different situations to see them under is the best way. No meals out or visits around meal times, try and keep your friendship strictly non food related.
And if all the above fails…?
Screw The Rest!
You’re in this for you and nobody else.
- Do not feel guilty for eating healthy.
- Do not let other people take your goals from you.
- Do not let people convince you, your health isn’t important.
- Do not let excuses get in your way.
- Do not let friends, colleagues or parents make you feel ungrateful.
And if anyone does the above SCREW THEM!
Do you know any other situation where you may need the “screw the rest” mentality? What do you find hardest about eating healthy? Let me know in the comments below…
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